The unemployment statistics for the first month of January 2015 is out. Here’s a sneekpeak at the unemployment rate in the country.
The current unemployment rate is 5.7%.
Unemployment rate for men - 5.3% Unemployment rate for women - 5.1% Unemployment rate for Whites - 4.9% Unemployment rate for Black - 10.3% Unemployment rate for Asians - 4% Unemployment rate for Hispanics - 6.7%
The job market in the country is still rough. So, if you’re one of those fortunate people who have a job, then thank your lucky stars right now. But do think a little bit about those who don’t have a job too. I know nobody has time to think about others, but at least show some humanity or address the problem carefully when your middle-aged and jobless uncle asks for money.
Please do understand that your uncle is not jobless by choice. Moreover, money is a very sensitive subject. So, you have to handle the issue tactfully. But what if your uncle asks for money regularly? What if he begs for money every now and then? Should you be rude or should you just say a polite “Sorry”?
Well, life is much more than being rude or sorry. And there are lots of ways to deal with the problem too. Interested to know how you can solve the problem? Here’s how.
Like I said, don’t be uncooperative. But again, don’t sucumb to emotional manipulation also, and for this you have to set some ground rules which are:
When you’re giving money to your uncle, you’ve full right to know if he needs money to feed his necessary expenses or the unnecessary ones. Ask questions to be sure that he is not asking money for purchasing a car or an expensive smartphone.
If your uncle really can’t use your money properly, then do one thing. Buy rice, fruits, veggies, lentils and pasta. Give all these food stuffs to his family instead of him. At least nobody would starve to death.
There is a difference between being a helpful nephew and being used. Help him if he is trying to do something for making money. Help him to get a job and do the necessary paperwork if required. But don’t make him completely depended upon you. Neither should you continue to give money throughout your life. It will make you run out of money one day. Moreover, your uncle has to deal with the situation on his own.
Your uncle has to work. Nobody will give him money throughout his life. If you really want to help your uncle, then take the following steps:
Next time he comes to you for money, just say:
“Today, I don’t have any money. Let’s call dad and mum. They might be help you out.”
The idea is to involve as many relatives as you can. Act as if you genuinely want to help and this is why you’re calling up other relatives. After a few ‘no’s’, your uncle will realize that fountain is dry.
Never ever utter these hurtful words to your uncle even if you’re raging in fury.
Learn to say no when nothing works to make your uncle take up his financial responsibilities seriously. Say, “I do love you uncle, but it’s not possible to financially support you throughout my life. I have a family too”. This should be a wake up call for your uncle. If he doesn’t change even after this, then nobody can.